It's a joke! And it's not!

long time ago, when a best friend of mine get married, on his reception i candidly asked him "sudah dapat kah?". referring to 'malam pertama'. and he was just smiling sheepishly.
it is actually a joke. kidding amongst frens. but the issue is actually not a joke. it is a critical life in the new life of married couples.
otherwise you ended up like our a sport celebrity which case is till in syariah court and publicise by our media.
know what i mean?